Anne Naylor

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CHAPTER 6
TAKING RIGHT ACTION

DOING DOES IT

Action For Satisfaction

One of the thirteen qualities defined as wealth in John Roger’s and Peter McWilliams’ book, Wealth 101, is Opportunity. You may have heard it said that luck is the preparedness to meet opportunity. Another quality that John Roger and Peter defined as wealth is Knowing What You Want. When knowing what you want meets opportunity, then you have an action to take and a way forward. As long as you are moving, you are progressing.

Taking a wrong turn need not be a disaster at all. It may be the very thing that gets you back on track with where you really want to be heading. Adversity can be exactly what you need to bring out your most creative and innovative resources. The wealth of new inventions have emerged from problems and difficulties that have been identified; the more problems the more solutions. Our wealth in this world is truly without limitation. There really are no losses - only gains.

You may be familiar with the different definitions for efficient and effective. A person who is doing things right is efficient. However, it is possible to be doing a lot of things right without really moving forward and often, that is fine. However, if you are wanting to move forward you might want to be effective.

The person who is effective is doing the right thing. Economy of effort means that you accomplish more in the time available, which frees you for a more balanced life. I also look at this as working smarter rather than harder. So how does one move out of Headless Chicken Syndrome (There seems to be a syndrome for most things, why not headless chickens?) and into a way that is smoother, easier and more rewarding?

What you can do is begin to lead a more effective life. That which you contemplate you will be drawn to you. You may find yourself being drawn to articles, books, radio or tv programmes which illustrate how to be more effective, stories of people who accomplish extraordinary goals with seemingly little effort - effort maybe, but not straining. These people have a way of attracting the resources - such as money, people, information - they need just at the perfect moment. Life for them flows with enjoyment and fun and they get a lot done. How do they do that? I believe that it comes at least in part as a result of clear intention and focus.

You do not have to be a great intellectual to achieve such results. In fact, people who have well-developed intellects and logical thought sometimes miss the simplest solutions. They just think too much and get caught in mental activity. Three more qualities that make up wealth from Wealth 101 are: Learning, Enjoying and Balance. Taking action is one great way to get you out of your mind and trying to work everything out from the sitting position.

You may be dreaming of owning a new car, for example. It is unlikely to be driven into your study, bedroom or living room. You need to move to the places to receive what you want. Whatever that may be. If you want to experience more peace in your life, you might want to live in a peaceful environment and develop a circle of friends who share that intention. There is a time for envisioning or visualizing what you want - a conscious activity. Then there is the time for going after it, physically moving and taking action. Balance. Inwardly, you can be guided into knowing which is correct for you at any moment. Learning. Then practice. It is very simple, though perhaps not always easy.

ACT - EVALUATE - COURSE CORRECT

A formula I have found helpful for moving forward surely and steadily is one where I have my objective clear, my direction is set. On the way to achieving it, I take an action and evaluate that action. This may involve getting feedback from others to check whether I am “on track” and that the actions have produced a useful result. I then choose and take the next right action. This process helps me to stay on course in the direction of my intention and not go wildly off where I do not want to be. It might look something like this:

MY INTENTION

To attract a new primary intimate relationship into my life

ACT

Write a vision of how I want to be experiencing a new relationship Research internet dating sites and sign up on one.

EVALUATE

Check whether the site I have chosen is producing good potential contacts, or not. Check whether my relationship vision needs revising.

COURSE CORRECT

Is what I am doing producing the results I am seeking? If not, what I can I now do that will be more effective? Am I on course or do I need to make a correction?

ACT

Create affirmations to strengthen the relationship with myself. Spend time pursuing an activity or interest I really enjoy, where I am likely to meet other like-minded people.

EVALUATE

Am I beginning to meet likely candidates? Are the people I am meeting close to my vision?

COURSE CORRECT

Is what I am doing producing the results I am seeking? If not, what I can I now do that will be more effective? Am I on course or do I need to make a correction?

ACT

Clear emotional deadwood in the way of a new relationship. Practice self-forgiving statements relating to previous relationships, including with family members.

EVALUATE

How am I feeling about the relationship with myself? Am I growing more confident and optimistic about achieving my objective?

COURSE CORRECT

Is what I am doing producing the results I am seeking? If not, what I can I now do that will be more effective? Am I on course or do I need to make a correction?

ACT

Take new action as directed intuitively.

ETC

On the way to a heartfelt objective, you may well encounter doubts, fears or resistance. It is normal. Nevertheless, keep going. Eventually, the commitment to your intention will lead you to the result you seek.

INTENTION - VISION - FOCUS

At the time I did my Consultation with Deborah Allen, I was in the process of training myself to facilitate Insight Trainings, which involved giving personal development presentations to groups of up to about 200 people. On that track, I took the 5 week professional training in California - twice. I think I was a hard nut to crack, or maybe it was the willful personality that had been a challenge to my mother when I was little. A friend gave me some valuable advice at that time which I still clearly recall. It was to keep my vision on my intention; to keep my eyes focussed on the vision and as I got closer to the vision, to be willing to course correct and re-focus on my intention.

As the time grew closer to my facilitating the trainings - I had begun to do some parts of what was a demanding programme to lead well - I realized that I did not want to be offering personal development to people who were already at least on their way to waking up to and embracing new values in their lives. I wanted to reach to a larger community of people who would never entertain the possibility of personal development for themselves.

Friends gave me an introduction to Charles Handy who had written a book called: Being 50 in the 80’s, as it was then the 1980’s. It was full of great thought provoking exercises and insights. He told me that early retirement was a field which would need a lot of attention. I could see the issues: people, typically men, were being given early retirement in their 50’s because they no longer fitted what was required. Their sense of self-image and value was locked into their lifetime career. Money was far from the only issue they might be meeting. Released from work prematurely, they would be at home lacking purpose and impacting on the life of their spouse.

A person who lacks purpose and reason for living often will not live. It is known that many who retire, lacking any meaning in life, also die prematurely. What is more a person in their 50’s has a wealth of life experience and expertise to pass on to others, should they wish to do so. It seemed to me a great waste of human energy and resource, not to mention the suffering involved, in a person who seems to be no longer of any use, discarded, of no apparent value.

My course correction was to re-focus on developing an early retirement programme, using the ideas and principles I had been learning in the personal development work I had been doing. I was introduced to a company in the City of London called Career Plan who were giving early retirement seminars to Barclays Bank managers and their spouses. My role on the seminars was to address the adjustment to change; the needs for companionship post full-time work and to assist in the process identifying new and more rewarding activity for the future.

The first two seminars did not go well for me. The reactions I got from the groups were painful. I was coming across as being too “psychological”. My approach was threatening to them. They shut down to me and would not respond. Most of them were about 20 years older than me. What could I possibly know or understand about their circumstances? It felt very cold.

Clearly, I had more work to do in adapting Californian personal development for provincial British bank managers and their spouses, most of whom had never been to any kind of seminar like this, far less one that touched on personal development. Fortunately, my colleagues at Career Plan were patient and understanding and assisted me to use the negative feedback I had been getting so that I was able to offering something of value to the participants.

The approach that I found worked was to get them into small groups, two groups of men and two groups of women, to discuss important issues, which were likely to be already in the back of their minds, concerning their future. After airing their own thoughts about the potential problems and things like what positive attitude meant for them, among themselves first and then to the group as a whole, I was able to offer my input. Hearing them express their views also meant that I had an idea how I could best relate my ideas to them.

The negative feedback I had received from those initial attempts was vital in creating what were subsequently very successful and enjoyable seminars. We received many letters from couples who had gone on to lead a fulfilling and very enjoyable retirement. My greatest contribution was probably being a good listener and holding a clear vision on their behalf that life ahead had plenty of goodness and possibility for them. An important part of getting that message across was clearing the hidden doubts in a warm, friendly and supportive way.

OPEN WIDE THE GATES - OF GIVING AND RECEIVING

A good way to make your intention visible and known to others is to be actively engaged in your life, giving of yourself in positive ways with enthusiasm and enjoyment. Many years ago, giving a talk to a Chamber of Commerce in Surrey on the subject of creating success in life, a young woman was sitting on the front row. She looked radiantly healthy and dynamic. I subsequently learnt that she had been made redundant and was in the process of finding new work.

She was not allowing herself time to feel despondent, resentful or depressed. Each day she would spend some time taking action to send out her cv, arrange interviews and explore new work options. Then she would allocate time in the gym, or the swimming pool, to getting fit. She was so full of vitality that she would be sure to be successful in her quest, sooner or later. When you are clear in your intention and being true to yourself, you are a magnetic force for receiving good things into your life.

I have known of people who have given their time and talent voluntarily, even developed new skills in a volunteer role, that has paved the way for a new career opening. There is something about giving of yourself in a greater way that opens the gates for you to receive more. Wealth in the forms of opportunity, clarity, new friends, pleasure in life will be attracted to you.

There is a saying: Opportunity only knocks once. How fearful is that? The truth is that there is so much opportunity it almost knocks you down. If one course of action does not produce the result, look for another. As you grow more active, you will discover more opportunity. What you seek will find you. It is almost magic process. There is no shortage of anything we truly want for ourselves when we have a positive mind-set and take action in the direction of what that may be.

WEALTH - AT ANY AGE AND STAGE OF LIFE

The wealth I propose extends way beyond the confines of money and financial health, important as they are for getting on in the world. Over the years of our life experience, we grow constantly more wealthy in wisdom and understanding. We cannot help but learn from what we do or what happens for us.

For this reason, I could not bear the thought that people in the latter stages of life would be seen as useless and of no value. Even more, that the people themselves might view themselves as worthless.

Our relationship with the world around us begins within ourselves. If you regard yourself as worthless, it is likely others around you will reflect that low self-belief and treat you that way. On the other hand, if you appreciate who are you and the value you represent, you are likely to be respected accordingly.

When I was giving the early retirement seminars, it was pointed out to me that to be happy in retirement, a person had to have a “personal philosophy”, or clear set of values in their life. From the basis of their personal philosophy, they could map out the new life they wanted to lead. As important as I could see this would be for a person in their 50’s, I felt that it would be equally important for a person embarking on their life and career to have a personal philosophy based on what is important to them, what they cared about and their sense of self-value.

So it became a dream to assist younger people be clearer about their values, self-value and direction in life as they were beginning to think about career and aspirations - what is important for them, what they most want out of life. Not long after that thought came to mind, I learned about the self-esteem movement which in the late 80’s was in its infancy and not regarded very highly. The self-esteem movement has since grown into an international body of people committed to raising awareness and implementing programmes for enhancing healthy self-esteem.

YOUR WEALTH...

... begins within you with your own sense of self-value, appreciating who you are, your uniqueness and your valuable place in the world. Rites of passage, special anniversaries and birthdays, relocation, fresh starts in careers and relationships, the completion of phases of life are occasions to celebrate and reevaluate your life, to count your blessings with gratitude. Each phase of your life contributes assets to your treasure chest of personal value.

We are designed for movement and expansion. When you look at the physical body, it is structured to move forward. Our limbs are awkward when we try to move “in reverse”. Our eyes look ahead. Perhaps if we were meant to dwell in the past we would have eyes in the back of our heads. Imagine driving a car looking only in the rear view mirror. It would actually be quite dangerous. So as we bring past events and experiences to completion with gratitude, we liberate ourselves for the next phase of our life adventure and wealth creation.

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